RELATION [ri-ˈlā-shən] noun: the way in which two or more people or things are connected.
RELATIONAL [ri-ˈlā-shə-nəl] adjective: about the way in which two or more people or things are connected.
We serve a relational God. Even before creating man, God was relational. Inherent to Himself, He is one God who is three. He is a God of Relationship. The first thing recorded in the garden that was “not good” was that man was alone (Genesis 2:18). Like God, we are made to be in relationship. Not just a relationship with God but in a relationship with others. The very first relationship between people is described in that same chapter of Genesis. It is the relationship between a man and a woman. The relationship is marriage.
Our relationship with God is always to be primary—but the most important relationship we will have with another person is found in marriage. It is not with our parents (regardless of how wonderful they may be). It isn’t with grandparents, or aunts, uncles and cousins. The most important relationship isn’t with siblings—even if they are twins. While coaches, teachers, mentors, teammates, coworkers and friends (even besties) are all important relationships, and can be cherished, they are not most important. And while Paul will tell us that not everyone is designed for marriage (1 Corinthians 7), it will never change the fact that marriage is still the most important relationship we could have with another person.
Yesterday, my daughter entered into this most important relationship with Calvin. For me, one who is not very emotional, I found myself flooded with feelings. On the one hand I am saddened that my daughter’s primary relationship is no longer with her parents. This makes me sad, and I feel a sense of loss. On the other hand, it is the prayer of every Christian parent that their child will find a mate who shares the same faith, commitment and love for God that their child was raised with. In that regard, I am overjoyed. Calvin is a man who will not only challenge, lead and encourage Abby in her faith—I am certain that he will be challenged and encouraged by Abby as well. It has done the heart of this father good to see the two of them taking time to see them in Word and praying together. While I may have a twinge of sorrow, overall I am glad that once more, God has brought two people together; and it is my prayer that He blesses their marriage, their lives, and their commitment to Him.